That you can fall in love with someone regardless of how they look
To be true to your heart.
That love can happen between any two people.
That those we have lost will always be with us.
That even our wildest dreams can come true.
That we must learn to accept differences and love each other for them
That some of the most beautiful people we will ever know, are beautiful for who they are and not what they look like.
That we are all meant for something great.
That you may find the one you are meant for in the strangest places.
So I recently tweeted in my twitter account that I’ll be posting a blog with regards to my 100th tweet which is about me “Wanting to Marry a BS Accountancy Graduate.”
For starters, I don’t really know how this came about but let’s just say that a part of me wants to marry an accountancy graduate. Listed below is a few reasons why:
Anyway, those reasons are rather simple right? You probably are shruggin’ your shoulders right now saying… “No dude, you should’ve totally went to Accountancy!” but here I am, still studying BS Psychology in my crappy school. I can’t do anything to make a move as of late ‘cause I made a pact with my mom that I would graduate with my current course but hey, it would be totally nice to have a girl that would fulfill at least the dream of my mom :)
1. Be Interested in Who You are Not
Part of being truly happy and free is being interested in the mystery of all that we are not.
Becoming clearer about who we are notallows us to de-layer, empty, and let go of the conditioning that doesn’t serve us. We come closer to touching our true essence, our absolute nature.
I’ve discovered pieces of who I am not at various stages of my life.
Like when I had spiritual experiences and labeled myself a “spiritual person,” only to discover I cared a great deal more about what it means to be my best as a human.
Or when I wanted to be a teacher because I wanted to feel like I had “arrived,” yet overlooked the benefits of lifelong learning.
Or when I published my first book, sent it out into the world, and realized the many years I committed to it were over. Almost the next day after my book release, I felt the call to explore something new and write my next book on an almost entirely different subject.
It’s about having a shift in perception and letting go of what we thought we were but no longer are.
Even though you may not have a direct answer when you contemplate who you are not, it’s still worthy. It may encourage you to keep being interested in the exploration of you, to investigate the mystery of yourself, to hear your greater call and listen.
2. Don’t Take Things Too Seriously
Real happiness and freedom come when we remind ourselves to lighten up, to not take our reactions, feelings, desires, or thoughts that feel important so seriously.
Try this: Don’t believe me. Don’t believe anyone else. Don’t believe yourself.
Try not to hold onto your present experience for dear life, because it will change. I try to observe when I use my present experience to build myself up, or manipulate it to show me in a certain light, or try to make something more out of it than it is.
Every once in a while, laugh a little at yourself, at the funny workings of your mind, how silly they can become when you take things oh-too-seriously, and keep a sense of hum
3. Be True to Yourself
On average, Americans have approximately 3–5 careers a lifetime. Why is this so?
Because we are constantly evolving, constantly changing, constantly learning more about ourselves. We wear a hat, try it on, get a degree, a promotion, commit years, weeks and hours and then realize there is something else we want that feels more in alignment with who we really are.
Somewhere, somehow we were taught that life shouldn’t change, that no one really changes, that we are the same person now that we were as an infant. And in some sense this is true.
We came into this world without any of the conditioning we developed in the years to follow. We were pure—brought into this world with a certain DNA that had a purpose and the trick is to discover it.
The more we are true to ourselves, the closer we are to happiness and freedom.
4. Have the Courage to Live Life Fully
What if you lived life fully? Engaged your dreams fully? Didn’t cheat it and just went for it?
What if you kept finding your edge? Stopped playing it safe and stretched a step beyond your comfort zone?
What if it didn’t matter what will happen later because you know that it will change?
And this is where I get a little heavy, but only for a moment for this too will change. As humans we know our lives will eventually end. Whatever comes into being will go out of being. Nothing in life is permanent. What we think we have will go away.
So, with this in mind, dive in to this thing called life. Live freely and creatively. Reach for the stars and meet your dreams. Since everything is changing anyway, we truly have nothing to lose.
Love is like a basketball game, in fact, they’re very similar in more ways than none. You could say my teacher in English invoked me in doing this essay / analogy but I guess there was this bit inside of me that really did want to make this. Here’s how it goes:
First off, love is like basketball for a person must dribble the ball in order for the relationship to continue ongoing, but the person must be careful though, for there will always be people who will find ways to steal the ball. Second, love’s like basketball for it is necessary to shoot the ball into the hoop; you get points towards a person for getting the ball to go in but sometimes you miss an opportunity. Third, love is like basketball for there will be fouls, and there will always be someone who will get hurt in the process. The fouls are divided into three, namely normal fouls, technical fouls and hard fouls. “Normal fouls” are fouls like misunderstandings and lack of attention. “Technical fouls” are fouls regarding jealousy while “Hard fouls” are fouls which may end up disastrous to the relationship like being seen kissing another, obsession etc. Be wary of the number of fouls though, for six normal fouls will result to an early exit in the relationship and two technical or hard fouls will also result to an exit. Also, there are such cases that one person must pass and entrust his loved one to another person and in such cases the entrusted person must find a way to keep the ball in his hands until the true loved one will get it again. Examples of these situations in real life are parties wherein the boy or girl must trust the friends of the boy or girl and his or her friends that they will do nothing to commit a foul in the relationship. There are also such cases that when a person misses the shot, there will be someone there who will grab the opportunity and make a move and in these situations the player must make sure to acquire the ball back or either give if he knows he has lost. These players that grab the ball upon a miss are called “rebounders”. Rebounders are people that are either good or bad for either a broken or ongoing relationships for they capture the missed opportunity and turn it into a point at the other end. Fourth, love is like basketball for there are so called “assists” in a relationship and that’s the reason why there are wingmen in the real world. “Wingmen” are those that support and pass the ball to the player in order for him to get an easy score, thus the word “assist”. In real life, the wingman serves as a bridge and hindsight just to make sure that no one else shall interfere with the development of the relationship. In addition, the wingman, along with the team mates of the person blocks and helps the man to protect and keep the relationship going, thus making them prolific blockers in real life. Lastly, basketball is like love for there are different quarters in the love game. The first quarter is the beginning of the relationship part while the second quarter is the enhancement part where couples strengthen their ties. The first two quarters comprise the first half which is known as the “Vision Part” for it is in this half where couples find out what they foresee in the future as a couple. The next half is composed of the third quarter which is the quarter where passion is enflamed and the fourth quarter which is the do-or-die part of the game. The two latter quarters comprise the second and final half which is known as the “Mission Part” for in these last two quarters, the vision is set and the person must decide whether he or she will continue to fight until the bitter end or just let his or her efforts go to waste. In the end of it all, the answer lies in the player’s hands. Will he or she get a victory, either in plain regulation or overtime fashion, and then live happily ever after? Or will he or she lose and never get another shot at the championship again?